Without Knowing

We hardly know the bruises we leave behind

As we walk on jostling through life.

Every day comes with its battles and problems

We struggle to keep things going

And somewhere in the process

We become a problem ourselves,

A problem for someone else.

As we grow wiser to our own lapses

We realize the people gone before us

Knew little of the damage they did

To our generation, to our family life

To our future.

Each thought they had a choice for themselves

Some chose for themselves

Some chose thinking about others

Each left behind consequences for others to endure

Suffer and overcome.

Perhaps a lot of us would have no story

No success and no victory if there was no hurdle

Obstacle or lack to deal with

They were the reason why we stand proud today

Thinking we handled the cards we were dealt with well.

We may fret and not want to share the glory or credit

Of our achievements with those who were part of the problem

But the truth is if the going was easy

We would be no winner!

There is a victory only when there is a struggle.

Often I have looked at families that have everything made

And feel sad about what I have missed

But then I realize someone in their family broke the mould

Made an impact through their actions

And freed the coming generations to live better lives.

You and I have been called to be winners

To be breakers of the mould

To be path creators and pioneers

Who will show the way to the struggling and lost 

We can be beacons and shine the light! 

The Treasures of Family Heritage

It is amazing what discovering your family roots can do for you! There was a time when I had lost my sense of identity and purpose in life. I was going through the worst time of my life and I needed something to motivate me to go on. During that time I remembered the things my mother told us when we were children about her Nani Aunties and their achievements.

I visited my uncle Leslie who had letters and newspaper clippings from their time. I read the biography of my great great grand Aunty Josephine Swaris. The other documents he had included a postcard sent by C.P Shukla, on behalf of Gandhiji from Karachi dated 9th July 1934; a reply to her sent by Ravi Varma, the 11th Prince of Cochin, Trippunithura, dated 14th September 1936; a letter of thanks for condolence from V.R. N. Naithyarammah, Springfield Palace, Nilgiris and the first page of a letter she wrote addressed to Gandhiji dated 1st October 1933 in which she reminded Gandhiji about his visit to her school in 1927! 

Mrs. Josephine Swaris, her husband Joseph Swaris
and niece Agnes Appoo

Information from the Newspaper Clipping on Josephine Swaris - my great great grand Aunt 

Ms. Mary Appoo, another great great grand aunt of ours was a religious who had resigned but still kept her religious dress and observed her vows. She was invited by Bishop Lavigne of Batticalao, Sri Lanka in June 1900 to come and start a school. She did so with the help of her own sisters says one report. Thus St. Cecilia's Girl's English School was started. This school was originally started by Fr. Francis Xavier in 1876 as a Tamil school. The English school was later handed over to the Cluny Sisters. Ms. Mary Appoo was known as Sister Mary Magdalene among the local people of Batticaloa. 

Ms. Mary Appoo, her niece Felicy Rosario
and women she mentored

Reading about their accomplishments made me feel proud of the heritage they left behind for us. I could see my own activities, my work with the children in Tulsiwadi and my doing social work in a better perspective after reading about them. It helped me get my sense of identity back! 

Moreover I am happy to reconnect with our family's history in Kerala again!!! Years ago, they had moved out of Kerala and since my father was in the Air Force, we traveled a lot. The result being that I missed a sense of having 'roots. My discovering our Nani Aunties and all the things I have learnt since has given me just that. I feel happy that I can relate to Kerala better now. 

It is good to know about the history of the generations before us. There is so much to learn and be inspired from... Thank God for their lives! Perhaps you should search your own family tree... there could be amazing gems in your family too!